Bedford Wedding Photographer: An Inspirational Wedding - Against All The Odds

June 18, 2016  •  Leave a Comment

Bedford Wedding Photographer: An Inspirational Wedding - Against All The Odds

To say Tom and Katherine have had a hard time of it would hardly scratch the surface of all they face each day. But with a combination of determination, resourcefulness and the power of their love for each other, they went ahead and planned their wedding. They didn't even know if they would both be fit to go through with it until the day itself. But I'm so pleased to say that go ahead it did, and it was a privilege to be there to capture their excitement, joy and happiness.

They weren't originally going to be able to afford having a professional photographer there, but they spotted my Facebook ad offering a free shoot to an engaged couple facing illness or disability. This was something I ran when I reviewed what had actually been my favourite wedding moments of last year, and realised that Lee and Louise definitely came top! It was time to give a little back to people who are coping with disabilities or health problems. I am so glad I did this, and I'll definitely be doing it again :-)

Katherine is good with words, so I'll leave you with some of her stories behind her wedding day, and some of my favourite photos:

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How we first met:

We first met in 2003 whilst in our first year at Sharnbrook Upper School, during a geography lesson. Bedford Wedding Photographer: Inspirational Wedding - Against All The OddsBedford Wedding PhotographerInspirational Wedding - Against All The Odds

When I knew he/she was the one:

After almost a decade of friendship our feelings started to grow and one summer it became clear that we were both thinking of each other as more than friends however having both just come out of relationships the timing wasn't right so we carried on being close friends. Then came November 2013, whilst at a small birthday party my other best friend had held for me I started to realise that my feelings towards Tom were growing again. We had grown even closer when I moved away to a different town for work and this party kind of made me realise how things had been gradually changing for me. He had to go to his brothers birthday too but despite this he stayed as long as he possibly could and as corny as it sounds our eyes kept meeting across the room in an intense way that seemed to express all the emotions we were both feeling.

When he left and I went outside to say goodbye I realised that I wanted him to kiss me, which as the perfect gent he didn't. I spoke with my friend and she dismissed it, not quite getting her head around the idea.

Then I had surgery a month later in London and Tom drove to pick me up afterwards. We got back to my flat and relaxed on the sofa watching movies. I lay in his arms and it was so natural and just so perfect. Again he had plans with his friends which he blew off to stay with me and we just stayed like that. When he left I just couldn't wait to be on the sofa like that again together.

Then slowly over the next two months our romance developed and grew. We were both quite shy and I was anxious about ruining our friendship if something went wrong but the feelings were incredibly strong from the start and I knew almost immediately that we were soul mates as we just fit together so perfectly in so many ways and had such a strong foundation of friendship beneath us. I had never felt this way about someone before so I knew. To be honest I probably knew in my heart long before my head caught up! Bedford Wedding Photographer: Inspirational Wedding - Against All The OddsBedford Wedding PhotographerInspirational Wedding - Against All The Odds

The one thing we love most about each other:

I think finding one thing we love most about each other is quite hard. Together I know that we love about each other is how completely and utterly we trust one another. After both being in relationships without this before we both knew how important this was. I think we also love how much we are still best friends and can talk about anything and everything all night long, usually having silly debates with each other about history and politics.

Finally we are both very loyal people who both want the same things out of life, who even without negotiation or compromise we want to raise our children in a certain way, have similar moral standing and both have a good work ethic, want to have a certain standard of living etc. We love everything about each other even the less attractive qualities, we have always said that we are perfectly imperfect to one another and even as friends our motto was 'through thick and thin'.

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You may not know, but:

To be honest I don't think either of us are particularly silly but do both have our quirks and we can be quite different. 

Tom is highly logical and sometimes this infuriates me as sometimes I nag him saying that not everything can be looked at this way and sometimes a more emotional response is needed. However it sometimes means that we are the perfect balance when we decide something together. Tom is also quite a neat freak about certain things and gets quite frustrated with the crumbs I make in bed. Then I get frustrated with him when he has to wipe out the crumbs so excessively! He hates that I leave tops of jars and bottles not quite screwed on and that I open new things like bread, soap, grapes etc when there are bits left in the previous packets. 

I am an excessive worrier and do sometimes panic get quite upright whereas Tom tends to be the pokar opposite and is so laid back he may as well be horizontal. 

I think most people don't know that Tom is probably a lot more soppy than I am or that he is mad about his computer and playing games on it. He is a big geek and I often compare his traits to the characters in the big band theory, a programme we live to watch together! Bedford Wedding Photographer: Inspirational Wedding - Against All The OddsBedford Wedding PhotographerInspirational Wedding - Against All The Odds

The proposal:

It was Christmas eve 2014 and we were up late sorting out everything and putting out Dylan's presents. When we got into bed he said he wanted to give me an early Christmas present. I don't usually like to open presents early so told Tom I would prefer to wait and he said ok although I could tell he was disappointed. We didn't end up going to sleep and instead stayed up talking about last Christmas and the last year and everything that had happened for us as a couple. It was really romantic and we were both feeling quite loved up.

Tom brought up the present he wanted to give me early again and I could tell this was important to him so I said he could give it to me. I had thought in the back of my mind that it might have been related to him proposing. When he bought out this rather large rectangular shaped box I thought it wasn't going to be a proposal and instead thought perhaps he had got me the curlers I had asked for for my birthday the month before. I opened the box and inside was another box and then another. Then a small box I opened it, still not thinking it would be a ring as it was slightly larger than a ring box. Then inside this was a final box- a ring box.

I then thought oh my God he is proposing and I was over the moon.

Then as I opened it, I saw a ring that I had previously seen and wanted. However then Tom, who clearly was nervous, started rambling about how this wasn't a ring ring so I wasn't sure whether he was proposing or not or whether it was just a ring I had seen and liked that he got for me. It turned out after some more rambling that it was a proposal but the rings was just something to put on ceremoniously so that I could chose the official engagement ring. When I realised what he was doing I laughed at him and said yes immediately. We were both over the moon and after some excited chatting, smiling and laughing I went to go get a mini bottle of champagne we had and we poured it into two mugs and toasted our engagement!

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Why we chose our wedding ceremony and reception venues:

We wanted to get married in a church, for me this had always been how I had dreamed of getting married and was important to me. Tom also liked the traditional aspect of it. When it came to choosing the church it would be Tom didn't mind as didn't have a close relationship to any of the possible churches. However for me Biddenham church has always been very dear to me and I had always hoped to get married there. I had gone to lower school in Biddenham and as a school we often visited the church and I even did a duet in there. Furthermore my youngest brothers was christened there and I had chosen to get my son christened there too. Now my grandma lives down the road from it and attends weekly services. So it is a church that is important to the whole family and as well as that it is a beautiful place to get married. 

Choosing the reception venue was more difficult as we weren't sure exactly what we would do for it. Neither of us wanted to have an evening do as with our health conditions and pain, dancing all night isn't something we could do and not something we would enjoy, I get very tired very easily and we didn't really fancy a big posh dinner. So it kind of came down to having an afternoon reception and we thought about a posh BBQ at a nice pub, as we only wanted to have a small wedding with immediate family and closest friends.

Then as I was researching wedding ideas and planning with one of my best friends she suggested the afternoon tea idea and had heard about this lady who did amazing afternoon tea services. After seeing the Facebook page for this particular woman I was sold on the idea and luckily Tom was very easy going and thought it was great. So then knowing that was what the catering was, my friend suggested the village hall in Biddenham. We looked at the website and fortunately one of the photographs was all laid out for a wedding and it looked great and not as shabby as I pictured a village hall reception being. It wouldn't require much travel between venues and was the right size for the number of people we had hoped would come, as well as also being very pretty. I also had some history with this village hall as for my eigth birthday I had a disco there so it seemed even more perfect!

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What led us to choose Mike Brown Photographic for our photography:

Because of budget restraints we decided early on that we would find a way to manage without a professional photographer. We had asked members of our family to take photographs as well as relying on the large amount of people with decent camera phones. However one night only a few weeks away from the wedding I came across Mike's competition for an Inspirational Couple to win having Mike at their wedding for six hours and a disc with photos on. I thought it was worth a try as for once the competition looked like something we could win given how much we have had to battle with our health.

So I filled in the form and heard back from Mike almost immediately. I was overwhelmed that we had a chance to win as well as stunned at Mike's generosity to offer us a secondary offer in case we didn't win the competition prize. I was a bit dubious at first as it seemed too good to be true. When I looked at Mike's website I relaxed and started to look at his work and was very impressed. I read his reviews which were excellent and allowed myself to get really excited about the prospect of having Mike photograph our day. I couldn't believe how lucky we were when we won!

Mike's talent along with his kind and compassionate nature made him the perfect person for us to have photograph our day! Bedford Wedding Photographer: Inspirational Wedding - Against All The OddsBedford Wedding PhotographerInspirational Wedding - Against All The Odds

Some of the most memorable moments in the day:

For me the most amazing part of the day was being in the church and actually getting married. I remember the excited looks we gave each other and the magical moment she said you can now kiss the bride. The readings were very special as well. The vicar was amazing and I loved when she spoke about Tom and I and our history, it was so relaxed and lighthearted it was not what I expected. 

I was starting to get ready in the spare room at my Grandma's with the French doors opening to the garden, the church bells started going and I felt all these crazy bubbles of excitement in my stomach and a sense of complete happiness. I was sitting at the dressing table and my mum was doing my hair, it was just the two of us at this point and it was a really touching moment, almost like the end if my childhood, like the last time she would do my hair if that makes sense. I could see how happy she was for me and what an important day it was for her too and it was a wonderful moment, without any of the usual morning of the wedding stress and nerves that I had anticipated.

Walking to the church with my dad was just unbelievable, the sun shining down on us, and all the neighbours came out to the bottom of their drives to watch, congratulating me, saying how beautiful I looked. My bridesmaids were waiting at the end and Mike was taking photos. I was so excited that before I knew it we were at the church entrance. 

Tom and I had a lovely moment in the car before arriving at the reception, we wanted some time together to catch up and we drove somewhere and parked up and both were like "we did it, we are husband and wife!" 

The speeches were very special and I was unbelievably embarrassed when my dad got me up to dance to Barbie Girl, however didn't refuse as thought it was a fun twist on his speech. The kind words that Tom, my Dad and the best man said were very touching and I kept print outs of all the speeches to read again later. 

I loved throwing the bouquets, although didn't want to throw mine so threw a couple from around the room and it felt like something out of a film watching all these women gather around and dart up and down trying to grab the flowers. 
When we left I went out to the car where Tom was already waiting for me and loads of our guests were out in the car park, people I thought had gone home. The car was decorated with cans, L plates, a banner and Mr and Mrs Proctor written on our windows etc. It looked amazing and saying goodbye to everyone and driving off with Tom us waving to everyone as the cans made a huge racket I just couldn't believe we had done it and the day had been so perfect and gone without a hitch. 

Then finally turning up to the hotel and checking into the hotel as Mr and Mrs Proctor, just an incredibly surreal but ecstatic moment! Bedford Wedding Photographer: Inspirational Wedding - Against All The OddsBedford Wedding PhotographerInspirational Wedding - Against All The Odds

How we felt about how the photography went:

The photography went brilliantly, the photographs are stunning. I was so relieved that we ended up with Mike as previously I had convinced myself that we could get just as nice photos from our friends and family....how wrong I was!

Anyway Mike did a fantastic job, got shots from all sorts of angles that I hadn't even realised he was in. He had changed the colours on some or the photos and they came out very striking. One of my favourite is black and white but there is just a touch of colour and it works really well.

I am over the moon that we have such incredible photos to keep and look back on. Plus having the DVD is almost like having a wedding video, it is just perfectly put together and the combination of the photos and music chosen, the order etc it is just perfect. Mike is clearly very talented and obviously puts a lot of care into his work and you can see it in the finished product. 

On the day Mike was professional, discreet, understood our physical restrictions and didn't pressure us to do anything we couldn't do or didn't want to do. He managed to take photos of things I hadn't expected, like me walking down the road to the church and most of the ceremony itself. Bedford Wedding Photographer: Inspirational Wedding - Against All The OddsBedford Wedding PhotographerInspirational Wedding - Against All The Odds

Our honeymoon:

We unfortunately have delayed our honeymoon as we needed to rest after the physical strain of the wedding and we wanted to make sure we could enjoy our honeymoon and make the most of it which wouldn't have happened if we had gone straight away. We hoped to go at the end of May but unfortunately my health was still particularly bad and we also had the added complication of finding somewhere to live. Therefore delaying it until we are more settled seemed like the best way forward. However we did spend the wedding night at our favourite hotel The Barns and stayed in a beautiful suite, overlooking the river, with a four poster bed and ended up spending the next day there eating wonderful food and enjoying referring to one another as my wife and my husband! It was the perfect way to end the weekend. Bedford Wedding Photographer: Inspirational Wedding - Against All The OddsBedford Wedding PhotographerInspirational Wedding - Against All The Odds

Our advice for couples starting to plan their wedding:

1. Start early, you have nothing to lose by being prepared and it will lessen the stress later. 
2. Don't let anyone else pressure you into making decisions you are not comfortable with. Whether it be about your dress, certain guests that you should or shouldn't invite etc. It doesn't matter of people get annoyed at you it is your wedding so hold your ground. 
3. Work together, women don't assume your men don't want to be involved as secretly they probably want to be, men don't leave all the hard work to your wife to be. 
4. Realise it is a stressful thing to do and make sure you are there for each other. 
5. Don't get all caught up in the wedding, remember the marriage is the most important thing.
6. Make a plan for after the wedding as it may be a bit of a shock when the wedding and honeymoon are done and you find that all that time and energy you dedicated to wedding planning is no longer necessary. It is normal to feel a bit blue and the best way to combat that is to keep busy and start a new project! 
7. Remember to enjoy every second, go to wedding fares, taste cakes, visit venues, try on dresses and suits etc as you won't be doing it again (hopefully!).

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Thank you to our other vendors:

Ceremony venue: http://www.stjamesbiddenham.com

Reception venue (if different): http://biddenhamvillagehall.org.uk

Dress: http://www.tiffanyrose.com

Flowers: http://www.balloonlady.co.uk

Cake: http://www.gardnersbakery.co.uk

Catering: http://www.amysvintageteas.co.uk

Furniture for the reception: http://www.jaspershire.co.uk Bedford Wedding Photographer: Inspirational Wedding - Against All The OddsBedford Wedding PhotographerInspirational Wedding - Against All The Odds


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